Women always worry that we’re being far too obvious when we like a guy THAT way. Considering the many perplexed and agonized articles and blog posts on the subject, men seem to have absolutely no idea when we’re flirting with them.
Add the tension and confusion around today’s gender roles and perceptions, and flirting can be a potential minefield of personal and legal woes. The obvious answer is to just ask, and if the answer is no, just accept it and move on.
But if “Excuse me, I have a hard time reading social cues and wasn’t sure if you were flirting with me,” doesn’t work for you, here are some indications that you have piqued a woman’s interest…and she hopes she’s piqued yours.
7. She has changed speeds.
You might have thought I was about to say that smiling or making eye contact was the first sign that a lady thinks you’re cute, but smiling and making eye contact are simply just polite ways to engage with other humans. Sometimes men mistake niceness for interest.
But if a woman who was previously talking quickly seems to be slowing down and considering her words, or starts rambling quickly where she was previously relaxed, she is now concerned about what you think of her.
Of course, if you’re her boss or congressman, she could simply be trying to be respectful or nervous. Context, in everything, is key.
Fear not! There are six more cues to put together to be more secure that she likes you!
6. She touches her hair.
If it’s windy, disregard. But generally speaking, if we begin twirling or futzing with our hair, we have become self conscious, which means we have suddenly become aware that we care what you think of our appearance.
This is usually a subconscious move, not a deliberate one. You may notice we’re doing it before we do. If we undo a bun and shake our hair out Charlie’s Angels style, however, we are probably actively trying to get your attention.
5. She touches you.
This is tricky, because some women are just very touchy feely or enjoy hugging. If you notice that a woman is going out of her way to make physical contact with you, she could be feeling maternal or romantically interested.
I can see why you guys get confused.
Usually the temperament of the touch is a good second indicator. If she sort of bats or pinches you, like she might a kid brother or a grandchild, it’s unlikely she’s thinking of you as Prince Charming.
If she strokes your arm a few times during a conversation, or grabs your hand a couple of times, there’s a good shot she’s into you.