Toxic relationships is defined as “repeated, mutually destructive modes of relating between a couple. These patterns can involve jealousy, possessiveness, dominance, manipulation, desperation, selfishness or rejection” by Psychalive.
Some examples include:
1.“If You Leave, I’ll Kill Myself”
If you and your partner are only together because the other one threatens to kill themselves if you leave, you are definitely in a toxic relationship and need to get out fast. It is never okay to trap a person in a relationship that they don’t want to be in for fear that you will hurt yourself (or worse) if they choose to break up with you. If both of you are doing this regularly, you don’t need a relationship – you need help.
2. Passive-Aggressive Behavior
You never communicate with your partner and you’re always ignoring them because they did something you didn’t like and you want them to know it. This is one of the signs that you’re living in a toxic relationship. If you’re intentionally refusing to talk to your significant other, you’re attempting to manipulate them and that’s just not cool.
3. Arguing Without Proper Communication
The flip-side to ignoring your partner without communication is constantly arguing with them without communication. While arguing and fighting is a small part of any relationship you find yourself in, arguing without attempting to resolve the issue causing the conflict (and even continuing to us it as an excuse to argue) is toxic.
4. Not Focusing On Your Individual Needs
Obviously when you’re in a relationship you want to do what is best for your partner and try to make them happy, but it’s possible to lose yourself in the pursuit of their needs. You don’t lose your individuality when you enter a relationship, and what you want and need are still valid. If everything you’re doing is focused on the desires of your partner and you’re letting your own well-being go to waste, you are not in a healthy relationship.
5. Personal Growth Is Met With A Negative Response
Part of being human is continuing to grow and learn throughout your entire life. When you or your partner changes (for the better) it should not be met with negativity or disdainfully being told that they’re “different now.” Personal growth should always be encouraged in any relationship you’re in, and if you’re with a person who can’t accept that, you need to bounce.